We asked Productivity/Efficiency Expert and Yoga/Meditation Teacher, Adwiti Subba Haffner to give us her answer to the title. Adwiti provided the four points below through which you can yourself attain happiness.
Here is Adwiti, in her own words. (Written by Adwiti, edited by Patrick Anderson)
4 WAYS TO HONE YOUR HAPPINESS
The pursuit of happiness is not a recent development; it is a search as old as humanity. You do not have to go to the Himalayas and become a monk to achieve happiness (although I am sometimes tempted). As told by Mathieu Ricard, an affluent monk who had himself mastered the art of happiness. happiness is a “skill that everyone has the potential to master”.
Steve Jobs did it. Oprah does it. Client Eastwood loves it. Liv Tyler and Mick Jagger use it. Most executives of Google are practicing it. Even you can do it. Meditation helps you to pause, take a gentle break from the bustling existence of demands, it will help you shift from the state of crazy constant motion to a state of respite, offering you some rejuvenation and nourishment. It is essential to nurture yourself so you can be of service to your world which needs so much healing and love. “Controlling the mind is not about reducing your freedom, it’s about not being a slave to your thoughts. Think of it as directing your mind like a boat rather than drifting.” – Mathieu Ricard, Art of Meditation
Ricard believes and emphasizes the need to cultivate altruism. Doing so requires stepping out of the “me” zone and embracing society, the community, the world and treating it like an extension of you. Allow your kindness and your love for your neighbor to blossom and grow and actively participate in random acts of kindness, volunteer at local soup kitchens. All these altruistic activities increase your propensity for happiness. Cultivating this habit is like developing an exercise routine to be healthy. Ricard calls this “flourishing.”
“I have also come to understand that achieving durable happiness is a skill that requires sustained effort in training the mind and developing a set of human qualities, such as inner peace, mindfulness, and altruistic love.” ― Matthieu Ricard, Happiness: A Guide to Developing Life’s Most Important Skill
3. Mental Training
Ricard believes that you are capable of living in a spacious state of clarity and inner freedom, where outside conditions do not dictate our inner state of mind. Just as an athlete trains for a marathon, you too can purposefully train our minds to always be in a state of inner peace. This will help you cultivate the quality of steady happiness. Refining and sharpening your attention to develop balance, inner peace, altruism, compassion and being of service to others requires unwavering dedication, single pointed focus, commitment and relentless training. So he suggests 15-20 minutes a day just thinking thoughts of compassion, kindness, altruism every day.
“We do exercise every morning 20 minutes to be fit. We don’t sit for 20 minutes to cultivate compassion. If we want to do so, our mind will change, our brain will change. What we are will change.” Mathieu Ricard
Increasing your capacity for compassion and empathy extends and opens your heart and mind to more happiness and well-being. Training your mind to meditate on caring and compassion can create significant neural changes in the brain which in turn leads to happy actions. When the intrinsic feeling is positive you tend to have more positive experiences with your outer world.
“Paraphrasing Spinoza, Alexandre adds, “In pity, sadness comes first. I am sad that the other is suffering, but I don’t really love him. In compassion, love comes first.”23 The” ― Matthieu Ricard, Altruism: The Power of Compassion to Change Yourself and the World
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You can create your own happiness by following even one of the above suggestions. Do not be dependent on the outside world to make you happy, reach for a happy feeling first and then act on it. The answer is simple and it is always easy. You are in charge of your own happiness, your own thoughts and your own life. How fun is that?
Contact The Happiness Expert Adwiti Subba Haffner today to get tailored guidance for your own unique life.
Adwiti Subba Haffner
Productivity and Efficiency Expert and Spiritual Healer